Guys, my fellow doods, not here to tell you what to do, but here’s things that help me pass and shit:
Walk confidently, feet apart, wide steps. Imagine there is a block in between your feet, walk on the sides of the block, but don’t waddle
Sit with legs apart. It gives a masculine appearance. If you cross your legs put your ankle on your knee, but act as if you have balls in between. Packers help.
Bind, with a really binder, not ace wrap or made at home ones. I did that for years and now my ribs are permanently misplaced. It hurts, it also fucked my back up. If you can’t bind try using sweaters and stuff, but I can’t help you much there :(
Wear darker colors, such as blacks, grays ,and maroon or Olive green. Try avoiding pastels and neons.
Avoid the “lesbian” cut, and the “emo” cut. As much as they look good they make us look like lesbians pre t. (Undercuts are very risky.)
As cool as it is, dyeing your hair is a big indicater that your trans. Most transtrenders dye there hair. If you do, avoid these colors, as they are most common among trenders:
Any shade of blue
Teal/aqua
Pink
Purple
Bleaching your hair in general
Don’t wear overly baggy clothes, but subtly do. If you wear trash bags it’s obvious you have a small frame, so try balancing out the baggage
Speak with a cocky tone. Not a dickish one, but a more confident tone. And at the end of your sentences try dropping your voice instead of the whole way through, girls tend to make their voices higher at the end of sentences
Wear lifts in your shoes if your short like me. Or high top shoes. Avoid converse or other flat foot shoes.
Observe the men around you, it will help you pick up on those traits.
Try to build up muclse mass, as much as you can, even just taking a jog everyday can help
Tone down drama, try not to over react as much as it sucks. Trust me, it’ll be hard
If a guy hits you, (as a joke),,hit back. Show your masculinity. Even if your not strong it helps. It makes people see you as a male more than a timid girl
As cute as they are, avoid flower crowns and pastel theme clothes. Pre T this makes you look very lesbian tbh
Wear watches, or leather bands, but try to avoid “emo” wrist bands. They make us look like emo girls.
Avoid flannels!!! I’m sorry but they have become the trender and dyke thing. :’(((((
Avoid beanies too, see above
Do try button up t shirts, they hide things, especially if they have a pattern. They also just look nice
Learn more about sports or other “manly” things, then you can have more conversation topics, of course not every guy is into stereotypical boy things, but you can definitely make alot of guy friends buy knowing these things.
Try to find natural ways to boost testosterone, like bananas for breakfast everyday boost mine before I went on T. Muclse milk can help too.
Anyways, feel free to add more, I came up with a ton, and I’ll come out with one for trans girls too!
Take up space, it’s more feminine to close yourself off
SQUARE. OFF. YOUR. SIDEBURNS. Females have pointy ones, not men.
Don’t walk with your hips, keep your back straight.
Graphic tees with high necks are probably your best friend
Wear loose exercise shorts in the summer - they hide hips more
Push ups are good for chest muscle
Gain as much shoulder/arm muscle as you can, it’ll give you a more triangular shape
You’re more likely to pass if you hang out with cis men, in a group of girls you’ll just look like a lesbian
Don’t shave your legs/arms/armpits
Quiff your hair, fringes make you look like a girl
Frown slightly to give yourself a brow-bone and more masculine eyes
Wear lynx/axe/male deodorant (if your parents are against it, argue that it’s stronger than female deo and your current female deo doesn’t work well)
Pack with a sock in your boxers, not too obvious, but don’t be flat down there
If you can’t bind, kt tape/trans tape is good (do research on it before trying it)
Avoid girly phrases like “oh my god” “literally” “like” (when used incorrectly) unless it’s obvious you’re taking the piss .
don’t talk about your cock so much, it’s mostly girls that do that
Don’t giggle, or laugh at everything. that’s flirtatious and girly. Laugh when you actually find something funny, and actually laugh.
Don’t be touchy-feely with your friends. That’s girly and weird if you do it to a guy, unless it’s a joke and they know it’s a joke.
Don’t take so many selfies.
Do a sport. Gives you something to talk about, makes you exercise, helps you meet more guys, raises endorphins etc.
Don’t move your hands as much when you speak.
My own set of tips I’ve made, found, or think are really good:
There’s a line when you walk. Women take short, foot-after-foot strides. Try walking with longer strides (hard to do when you’re short but still doable) with your feet apart.
Men aren’t very expressive with their faces unless trying to make it obvious what they’re thinking (like a “Really?” face or “Are you serious?” face.)
If you are allergic to bananas like yours truly, there are other ways to raise your testosterone! Certain nuts, grains, and veggies can help. “
Almonds, Brazil nuts, walnuts, and peanuts increase the production of testosterone. “
Men have longer faces. For those with round or chubby faces (like myself), try to sing in a choir (if you can handle the dysphoria singing can give, or if you like singing). There, they teach you to breathe with your belly (which is very helpful when you’re trying to hide your chest lol) and to open your mouth. When singing, you should be able to put 3 fingers, if not 4, between your top and bottom teeth. This is to help when allowing your voice to carry, but it also helps loosen the jaw and make your face appear longer.
If you can’t sing, don’t want to, or are too shy/dysphoric to, you can still practice putting 2-4 fingers between your teeth and letting them gently rest on your fingers. Keep this position until you feel your jaw getting tired, then let your jaw go back to its normal resting place. Do this twice a day for a while until satisfied. (DISCLAIMER: I got this tip from a friend and I haven’t used it personally, since the singing does fine for making my face long, but I don’t know for sure if it can be damaging or not. Do this at your own risk.)
If you can’t buy a binder, try wearing some sports bras. One on normally, one on backwards.
Remember that men’s chests poke out a little, too! It’s okay if your binder doesn’t make your chesticles flatter than paper.
Don’t wear super baggy clothing! If you do have a binder, try wearing normal fitting clothes (with the binder on). If you wear baggy clothing, it will give you away, as it says “I have something to hide”. Try wearing men’s jeans (or jeans that don’t have an obvious shape) that fit normally, because baggy jeans give an unkempt and raggy look.
Try new hairstyles. For men with heart shaped faces (like my own), try quiffing your hair, as stated above. To quiff is to comb up and back from the forehead. Showing off your forehead is a very masculine thing to do, as most men have a far back hair line. Try making your hair voluminous to give the illusion of a tall/skinny face. If you have a round face, try a more conservative look with just short hair that’s combed to taste. If you have a square face, try parting on the side and combing it to taste.
If you don’t have a packer and are using a sock, I suggest not making it huge. One small sock with a rolled up sock seems to work very well. Try not to just let it sit straight up or straight down, too. Put it to one side or the other. This will give a more natural look.
Try to be less verbal when listening. Men don’t give as many verbal cues when listening, and will usually just give nods or grunts on occasion.
Again on the topic of singing, if you are a soprano (I’m a first soprano, naturally) and want to lower your voice, try singing along with alto singers like P!nk or Adele. Years of this can help broaden your range, and eventually give you a deeper speaking voice. I naturally speak like a valley white girl, but when I think about it and fix it, I sound like a 13 year old boy- which is fine to me.
Be loud when you talk. Don’t let others interrupt you. This is a very masculine thing to do, and it can also help give confidence that otherwise can not be there.
When people talk to you, look them in the eyes.
Be a gentleman! Open doors for people, go in/out last, offer to pay/do things, offer to drive.
Be direct and blatant about things. Women beat around the bush about issues or desires (especially if an important date is coming up), but men are usually very direct about their desires. If you want a new pair of shoes, just say “I want (these kinds of shoes) for (this important date).”
Don’t be afraid to show your soft side, but try to be a little less emotive in public. When men are excited, they tend to be chill about it and not jump up and down. However, if you are comfortable with yourself, feel free to go bonkers with your excitement!
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Meltdowns: a guild for allistics and how to help your autistic friend avoid one.
When you’re out with your autistic friend and they become less responsive or things begin to irritate them think of it like this.
Imagine the clothes you wear turning to sandpaper, the lights are as bright as the sun, the child screaming sounds like a fire alarm, actually multiple sirens going off at once, and someone trying to hold a conversation with you.
This is what overstimulation feels like. Here’s how you can help them.
1.) Know their echo. Echolalia is like when they repeat a word or sound or section of a song over and over again until they calm down. Trigger an echo and get them to echo until they calm down.
2.) Be quiet, don’t yell. Yelling will make things worse. If you need to say something, speak quietly and clearly. If not, don’t speak at all. It adds stimuli.
3.) Hand them soft clothing, or let them sensory seek. Soft texture can ground them.
4.) Do not touch! Its added stimuli. A simple touch can do more damage than you think.
5.) Lead them (without touching them) to someplace without or with low stimuli. Like outside or a bathroom.
6.) Do not wear strong scents around them. Do not take them into stores with strong scents.
7.) Let them stim. Any movement or sensory seeking is called stimming. Humming it singing can also be a stim. Stimming comforts them. It calms them. So let them stim. It will help them avoid a meltdown.
Ok. What if your friend is having a meltdown already? Good question. Here is some tips.
1.) Take them to a safe environment without touching them.
2.) Speak softly, do not yell.
3.) Do not tell them they are drawing attention. It will only make things worse.
4.) Do not touch them. They could hurt you or themselves if they do.
Post meltdown?
1.) Be understanding.
2.) Cut down on stimuli.
3.) Remember, this is still your friend. They were just pushed to their limits and couldn’t take it anymore.
Please remember, all meltdowns are avoidable. If you understand what it is and what to look for you can stop it before it happens. This goes for children as well as adults. They are still your friend.
